So, we worked out a deal. I kept her mac n cheese in a bowl by me and she had to eat a green bean before I would put a bite of m n c on her plate.
Then, yesterday,I saw a commercial with the same idea. They call it 'potato pay."
I looked up the commercial to share with you. There was even a chart to help parents. I think the chart has rewards that are too large.
Exbf told me about a little girl at one of the dinners. She put a green bean in her mouth and made a face while she chewed it, an awful face that let you know she just hated the green bean. I wonder what the deal was for her.
Have you ever withheld food, bite by bite, and allowed your child to have it like in the commercial? Or, with any food the child wanted? Any other hated food stories?
Well, with me it was "no eat veggies, no dessert". Or, you have to at try. Or, sit there until you finish. (I guess that one is considered child abuse nowadays). Sometimes I had to disguise stuff, like minced veggies in mac and cheese.
ReplyDeleteTewshooz,
ReplyDeleteSince we did not have dessert every night, that one would not work. I thought she was too old for the "just one bite" idea. Fresh, store canned or home canned, she hated beans unless they had been cooked to death. She still hates green beans, and she is almost 50.
No number of fries would have ever gotten me to eat "sprouts". I just usually tried to get them to try at least 2 or 3 of whatever was served. They were picky back then but now both of the kids will eat almost anything!
ReplyDeleteladybug,
DeleteI refused to eat squirrel and gravy, so Daddy would not let me eat anything at all. Mama brought me something in the bedroom. He could have beat me to death, but I was not going to eat squirrel.
We had the two bite rule at our house. Regardless of what was served you had to eat two regular bites of it. I always made sure to serve one acceptable veggie when I was introducing a new one to the routine so they would eat veggies regardless. I do remember one rather unfortunate cauliflower incident regarding the two bite rule though.
ReplyDeleteAnne,
DeleteDon't tease us...lol. Did it involve throwing up?
I have always insisted my kids try new foods,, but never forced a kid to eat anything he/she didn't like. We have an "Eat what you want, leave what you don't want" rule at our house, with the caveat that he (or she) who complains about the food at the table is responsible for providing the next night's meal. I also encourage my kids to periodically try foods they previously disliked, as tastes do change over time. I know I have gone through stages where I eat a certain thing regularly, for a period of time, then seem to lose my taste for it. That said, picky eating drives me mad--either eat it, or don't, but if you aren't eating, then it's your own fault if you are hungry. Whining about the food is not allowed, until well after the meal's end.
ReplyDeleteMeg B,
DeleteI did not like sitting down to complaints about food I had worked hard to prepare. My kids would not want to eat something and then an hour later expect to be fed again! NO!
I am hardly a strict parent, but I get very disgusted with picky eating--I also can't stand it when people deride another's meal choice. I believe the preschools teach "don't yuck another's yum." I think parents are doing a disservice to kids by catering to picky eating. According to my mother, I was a horribly picky eater as a small child, and the way my parents combated it was the way I do: Eat what you want, leave what you don't, but save the comments, or woe betide you." And "If you're hungry, it's your own fault. Kitchen is closed." It worked so well, because I don't even ever remember any of us being a picky eater. I do have a picky eater, (DD) who tries to passively skirt the no complaints rule, but I think that is more a result of her being a teen, and trying to push parental buttons, than her actual food preference. (Ie: She will say things like "poor pig" if I serve pork.) With this one, it's just attitude at the table. I finally addressed that by refusing to let her know dinner was ready one night. She came down to us all at the table, incensed we didn't call her. I told her after her behavior of the other night, nobody wanted her at the table, and that her plate was in the kitchen. She had her nose bent out of shape over that for about a week, until one of her brothers, was going out to lunch with DH. I told DS to ask his sister if she wanted to go. He did, but when she accepted the invitation he said "But you have to act human, or we'll send you to eat with the dishwashers!"
DeleteMeg b,
Delete"eat with the dishwashers." So funny. Complaining about any food, especially something I worked hard to fix was always hurtful and stressful.
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