I Hate This Purse!

 

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I really dislike this purse I am carrying. See the three red tassels for zipper pulls? They were at least four inches long if not longer. So, I cut over half of each tassel. It improves the look a little. The vertical pocket will barely hold a flip phone and will not hold an Android. My glasses barely fit. I doubt cigarettes would fit. I had to mash the whole purse to get the snap shut. I suppose that is a good thing if you have put something into it. But, to just close it empty, I was annoyed. 

Look at the two pouches to the left, both with tassels. The larger pouch has a little pocket on the front. Well, the larger pouch has a zipper that shows the whole cloth part of the zipper. Not cool. The inside of the little pocket has lining that is already picked and has tiny holes in it. I wonder how long it will be until it just shreds. 

The two buckles at each side near the top zipper makes the purse too busy for me. The top zipper on the front has a matching one on the back. Those zippered pockets are over half the length of the purse, so it seems top heavy when I put things in them. 

The zipper in the top of the purse had a huge tassel, too. The zipper end of the zipper end is okay, but the other end is loose. I cannot close the zipper with one hand, so I have to hold each end of the zipper. It is such an annoyance! 

Inside the purse, there are two open pouch pockets on the front and another zipper on the back inside. There are too many pockets, pouches, zippers and tassels.

The color is the only thing I like about this purse. I hate wearing it and carrying it. I realize I saw a picture, but basically, I feel like I bought it sight unseen. Plus, I put too much into it because I can. It is about 9"x10"x2", way too large. Thankfully, I only paid about $29 for it, I think. I will not toss it or just keep it. Hopefully, I can sell it or donate it. 

The strap is too wide for my taste. The whole purse is made of soft, thin leather. The long strap was folded like long straps usually are folded. It has never lost the folds, so it looks cheap and not leather. 

Tommy left a cheesecake on the counter for over 24 hours, okay--31 hours. I only ate a piece late Wednesday night. I noticed it was not firm and not at all even cool. When I asked where he stored it, he said on the counter. Yet, he knows to put cream cheese in the refrigerator. I told him that information about the refrigerator was on the box. He came back and said it was on the bottom. I guess he was justifying his action. He is learning. No, I did not yell at him, quite the contrary. 

It is 24 hours later, and I did not suffer from eating cheesecake stored wrong. Dinner: chicken, green bean casserole for me. Tommy: chicken, potato, kidney beans, zucchini, potato and carrot. Everything was leftover, fine by us. 

My 92-year-old friend is much better, no longer coughing with much congestion. But, her husband fell last Friday, so he is having physical therapy at home. I still worry for them. 

I called a Master Gardener friend about the irrigation for flowers and food in pots. She at least gave me two names to add to my vocabulary when trying to say what I want. I know I do not want soaker hoses or overhead dripping onto plants. What I need has to do with tubes and emitters. 

The lunch at the church with meals and musicians starts back up. We will go, sit, pack up meals to take out. We still wear masks so no eating! 

Did you ever acquire a purse that was so annoying that you developed such a great dislike and unhappiness with its very existence in your life? 

Do you water with the setup that includes, tubes, emitters, time and outdoor faucet connection? Anything I need to know?

Peaceful, Easy Feeling at the End of the Day

 It is almost 5 pm, and still have not slept all night. I was sitting here about ten this morning and the phone rang, waking Tommy, It was a call from the gynecologic oncologist.  The nurse reminded me I had an appointment, one I had forgotten. It was a month off, so no problem. She said the appointment was with a different because Dr. NAME had died. That was such a shock. 

He was the kindest man with best bedside manner I have ever known. When I was having trouble getting off the exam table after being in the stirrups and hurting my back, he said, do you need help? He was already holding my arm. I said yes and he took his arm and put it around me, like in a bear hug and held me while I managed to get my feet on the floor. He held on while I got my bearings. I thought that was such a kind gesture. Well, he is dead! 

I asked how he died. Covid. So, I looked up his obituary. The obituary and other sites said cancer. He had been ill with lymphoma for several years. My appointment was about six weeks before he died. I suppose he had cancer and covid weakened him.

I cried. I tried to stop and did. But, tears kept coming. 

While I was waiting in the car for Tommy later in the afternoon, I decided to call the friend who is 92. She is very ill with congestion like I have not heard for a long time. We only talked for ten minutes. 

So, I decided to call the friend who has had falls. Well, she is bruised all over from a fall last week, still feeling ill and could not talk. The nine minutes on the phone was hurting her. 

I did not dare call the relative for fear she would be too ill to talk. But, I had her daughter's number, so we talked for 30 minutes, making each other laugh the whole time. I never call these three friends on the same day, usually not in the same week. Today has been another emotional day. However, it has been a good day in all other ways. 

Gaining weight may be in my future. I mentioned buying the DQ milkshake that had something like wood in it. . Well, I took the receipt, shake container with the offending piece back to DQ. Manager wanted to know if I wanted money back, another milkshake or what. So, I told him to give me a Blizzard of equal cost. And, what did they have in chocolate? Well, he brought me a 16 ounce, at least, blizzard. I tried to get Tommy to eat some. This thing may last me for another two days at least. It is chocolate with chocolate brownie, and chocolate chunks. It is so rich. I have never in my life had a Blizzard that was larger than the smallest they sell. It is in the freezer and may go into the trash!

It is a beautiful day, sunny, deep blue skies, cloud free, warm, with a chilly wind. I could not have handled a gloomy day. I am rigging Easter eggs to hang in the tree out front. That is a fun, pleasant activity. 

I have been lucky in my life to have ob/gyns that were gems, men who truly helped women. This was a blow losing my present oncologist. He was so young and kind. But, the nurse assured me the new one is just like the one who died. 

The day is over with a peaceful, easy feeling. I don't need excitement to laugh and enjoy life. I tried to take a nap, but my feet hurt so I got up and hung clothes in the hall. Well, I put things on hangers and Tommy hung them. I cannot reach up with something heavy, plus, I get dizzy reaching up and looking up. 

Midnight now. Up from my nap and ready for dinner. 

Got a message I cannot read, but it appears we are now safe from mosquitoes. And, fleas are what we complained bitterly about biting. Of course, another one bit me. He fled because I missed picking him off me. It is freezing, but we are safe from mosquitoes! 

I was so out of sorts today, a grammar question evaded me and I had to look it up to determine whether to use 'hanged' or 'hung' while writing the post! I had hoped never to become so tired that I forgot grammar. 

it is after midnight, so we are on to Wednesday. 

Was your Tuesday successful? Fun? Busy? 

Three Friends--Conversations

 There are three friends with whom I speak that who older than I am. I am slowly watching, hearing them fade away. It is good to talk with them. However, it is painful to find people not what they were. I know the adult children of all three. 

The relative had a stroke, so is not as 'with it' as she should be. She is confined to a wheelchair. There are days I call her and she does not feel well enough to talk. Medication is often the problem. I learn when I can call. I understand but would hate to lose the connection to a relative. She is 88. I hope never to have a stroke since the two have taken so much from her. We share family stories and have found out so much about our past lives. We can laugh about our life circumstances. Her husband has slowed down, she says, but she has him and children who are very much hands on and supportive.

The other friend I have known since 1980. She is 85 or a few years older, can barely walk with a walker. She was so active when I met her when she was 40. She could physically work circles around me. Life has taken a toll on her. Since her husband died, she has had many debilitating falls. She sounds weaker all the time. I notice her memory is not what it should be. We still laugh when we reconnect. She was always a friend with whom I laughed. 

The other friend I have known for about ten years. She is 92, fully mobile, needing no help to get around, and until the last few months has been very sharp. Now, she forgets things. She has never fallen. She and her husband were sort of forced to move from one rental to another. I think the lack of trees and flowers at her new home has had an effect on her mental acuity. She is sad about these loses. I know it did take her about three months to recover from the move even with help. Her husband has gotten lost getting to their new home. I have little contact with him, so I am not sure about his mental acuity. 

These are my telephone connections. I do see the 92-year-old friend. I have not seen the relative in decades. The other friend does not go out a lot. And, driving to see her is difficult. 

I would be devastated if I lost either of these three friends. The loss would be indescribable! There are others I know, but with these I have a special relationship. 

The older woman invites us over all the time. The relative is really too far away to visit. The friend who falls may not feel like company. 

Sunday, I was thinking about the health of these three women. This thinking was not ruminating about the 'what ifs' or about their dire futures. Today, Sunday, was a quiet day. So, there was time to think about people with whom I share time and space. All the thoughts were about pleasant conversation we have shared in the last week. 

Do you ever spend time quietly contemplating the lives of your older friends and relatives with whom you feel close? Do you worry just a little bit about losing them? 

Monday now. The skies were clear, cold wind even though in the 50s.

Since I slept only three hours last night, I am going for a nap. I will sear a roast and Tommy will peel carrots and potatoes. Add an onion and we will have roast.