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Saturday, November 8, 2014

Retaliation

Exactly two months ago, I told someone that a church member was talking inappropriately to a group of women and girls in the church. He had announced with a big grin that he loved "dancing" went out every week to a "dance hall." This guy had been playing around, grinning and talking about how he was "in charge." Soon, he was holding court, talking about how he did not drink or do drugs, that he just loved women. He loved dancing with them, just loved women. He was smiling all around with special attention for girls under twelve.

I told the minister that was inappropriate talk to these young girls, that it was inappropriate in church. Actually, I don't care the venue, it was inappropriate. He had assigned all the men to help elsewhere, had kept the women in the kitchen and fellowship hall. So, no man was present. I was the only female who was not grinning ear to ear.

The next month, the guy was in a snit. All the little girls had been removed and not one was around to have him pick at them verbally and flirt. He walked past me in his overalls and declared, "I ain't afraid of nobody!"  He behaved himself.

This month, I gave him the evil eye, the side eye, and made him so uncomfortable that the first time he saw he was getting the evil eye, his smile faded and he swallowed hard. Yes, my daughters and I can practically kill with our evil eye.

He is a plumber. My plumber said it had to be a plumber with the right saw to cut the sewer pipe. He assured me a plumber did it. Now, I wonder if this was in retaliation. If so, this guy will do anything.

So, maybe I am paranoid.

The last plumber before all this trouble was at least 20 years ago, maybe 15. Maybe he did not do it; maybe a helper did. He was re-plumbing the basement and had to hook it up to new pipe for waste in the basement. Maybe the plumber misunderstood his instructions. I do remember his acting strangely at the end of the job, nothing I could put a finger on.

A little girl (9)  in this church always talked to me. I told her to be careful of him, not to fall for his bad sense of humor, not to be alone with him. She was wide-eyed, assured me she would not and then opened up. She told me that a little 6-year-old had said he touched her inappropriately. I managed to not react. She went on and told me the parents told the minister and the plumber said the little girl was lying. They quit coming to the church because he was allowed to come there and no one reported him. Now, they have moved. So, I have to get the ball rolling so he gets what he deserves. No, I don't think locals will pursue this strongly enough.

Still, I have no water...grrr.

Your turn

Do you think I am off about this guy maybe cutting my sewer line? Of course, I cannot accuse him.

16 comments:

  1. Anything is possible. The timing fits in.. I can't believe the girls parents didn't go to the police. If that was my daughter, he would be 6 feet under.

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    1. Michelle,
      They are probably intimidated and do not want to further traumatize the girl. Plus, they are probably misguided and want to stay on the good side of god and not hurt a man who is an elder or deacon. I know it is wrong and sick, but they will probably be made to feel guilty.

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  2. I hope you are wrong - but sadly it seems possible.
    I agree whole heartedly with Jason and Michelle. Reporting that man is waaaay too good for him - and the start of what their daughter will need.

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    1. EC,
      I am quite sure the minister said he did not want to ruin the man's life, like that little girl will not be affected the rest of her lie.

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    2. What's scary is there are probably other victims. The minister didn't want to ruin the mans life, but he's ok with ruining others? Childrens?

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  3. a guy like that is capable of anything and you were out of town and all.....
    thank you for standing up

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    1. kylie,
      I was careful not to tell anyone I would be away, and sometimes I lied as to when. I have to stand up, or I could not live with myself.

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    2. yes, i wasnt implying anything about you, just that he had opportunity.

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  4. I can picture you giving him the evil eye. If looks could kill ....

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    1. LL,
      Plus, no one has ever stared me down. I always win that one. Too bad looks could not kill.

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  5. What a terrible terrible man to use church so he can be a predator!!!
    And how odd that you are having plumbing problems at the same time! I think you should call the police and explain the entire thing and tell them the name of the people that moved!

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    1. Sony Ann,
      My ex, the preacher, did the same thing--use the church to be a predator. I saw things like this happen so often growing up in the church that my children were never at church without me very present.

      I am going to question the plumbers again as to whether the cut was recent or long ago. I already have plans to turn him in to authorities, and I cannot prove he did it. So, we will see.

      I don't know the name of the people that moved, but there is a whole church to question.

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  6. That's frightening. Of course it's possible that he cut your pipe. You evil eye him all you want.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Janie,
      The current plumbers will help me determine who did it. Of course, I will give him the evil eye until he is out of circulation.

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  7. Predators get away with things because their actions go unreported. That said, I'd be careful about what I say online about this and focus on action. I wouldn't want to incite this nut to do something (or something ELSE).

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  8. You did the right thing Linda. And yes, he likely did it. Get your current plumber to see if he can see evidence of vandalism, and if so, report it to the police.

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