We met on the internet in 2004 and emailed and talked for about a year. At his first contact, I told him I was dating someone. He said friends were a good thing. So, we emailed for a long time. It was all platonic. He never crossed those boundaries.
When the other guy dumped me, it was a relief...lol. I invited T up to visit me. I cooked dinner for him because he was always telling me by email how good what I was cooking sounded. After that he kept my yard immaculate and I cooked dinner for him and sent home leftovers. Almost two years later, he told me he did not want to be my bf anymore.
My 45th class reunion was coming up (2009), and I told him I wanted him to go with me. He refused for several weeks. He went to one of his reunions and it was the worst thing that ever happened to him. I xplained he would not be "on" and would have nothing to prove. He didn't even have to talk. I told him that people do things they don't want to do for someone they love. The next week is when he broke up with me. I cried because we had not argued in months.
He said he would help me as long as I needed him because he knew I needed help. Just last year, 2014, was five years since the breakup. I asked him if he thought he would be helping me for so long. He sort of laughed and said he never thought it would be so long.
Two years ago, I told him not to mow my yard again because of his hip and how he had to struggle. He does less and less as time goes on.
He is 62 and has never been married. He thinks an argument is the end of the world. He does not take conflict well. But, when I am right, I state so. For instance, I needed coolant in my car. He was putting in water. I was stomping around telling not to do so. He said, "It is summer so you don't need antifreeze now." Then, when I quit arguing so I would not kill him, he followed me around telling me how I was wrong! He would not let up. So, I yelled at him. I managed to put a bit of antifreeze in the car. Well, the next day I took it to a radiator shop, and a guy there helped me by putting some in. Maybe he drained some out.
Does this clear it up? Any other questions?